WHY HE DIDN'T OUT YOU OUT IN YEAR 2014 (Brother's Mind)

 

In year 2013, you were so hopeful that you would be involved in a serious relationship with the man of your dream. You spend your time and money on your outlook to just get his attention. Somehow, you manage to get on a date, but he never got to ask you out for a second date and you are wondering why. BIG SISTER Magazine conducted an interview with some brothers on why they never get to ask a lady out for a second date and we got some answers that we are glad to share with you in this maiden edition for year 2014. Some response were eye opener, some very educative, while others were simply hilarious. But it will give us some insight into a brother’s mind and will guide us towards having a safe relationship in 2013.

NO PHYSICAL ATTRACTION

  

This is unlikely, since he probably asked you out on the first date. However, if it was a blind date or you change some key part of your appearance before the date, it can certainly throw things off balance.

                                                      MOBILE PHONE ETIQUETTE
                                      
                                               

‘If I were in a date with a lady who is on the phone constantly during a first date, I may likely not ask her out again’. Says Timi, a medical doctor. ‘This applies to pinging, texting and all manner of social networking. Spending long periods on the phone means she is distracted and barely interested in the date we are having’.

ME, MYSELF AND I

‘Don’t confuse with vanity-if on the initial date you go on and on about yourself, his not coming back for seconds may mean that he thinks you are self centered’.  Says Jerome, relationship expert. ‘To avoid this landmine, keep the conversation two-sided, and maintain some mystery about yourself by not jamming your biography into an hour-long date. The first date is not the time to regale him with all your individual achievement, from winning the latest award to being the most diligent staff in your organization’.

BRINGING UP EX-BOYFRIENDS

‘I just get bored when she brings up her ex’s tale on the first date, especially when she says she and her  ex still remain excellent friends’.  Laments Dave, a TV presenter. ‘If the old relationship was so blissful, then, she has no business trying out for another guy!’

SHY/INTIMIDATED

‘Some guys just get intimated or are too shy to ask for a second date’.  Says Felix, a 40 year old Life Coach. ‘If you believe that might be the case, make sure you get his number, and call the dude up to scope things out. You’ll know if he is intimidated in the first ten seconds of the call when he either claims the phone is on fire and hangs up, or he nervously clamps up and goes quiet.’

VULGARITY

‘I like a girl who can be as vulgar as my male friends’, Says Henry, a 37 year old banker. ‘But don’t trot out your award-winning burps or four-letter fiestas until much, much later into the relationship!’

BLANTANT PRE-DATE LIES
 

‘This one’s common with the internet dating crowd”. Say Banji, a software analysis who once met a girl online. ‘I wonder why some women tell lies about themselves before the date kicks off.  I once met a lady online who claimed she was a telecoms big girl who enjoys French literatures, only for me find out that she neither works in the telecoms industry nor speak or read French. She also claim to live in Lekki, a high brow area in Lagos-Nigeria, only to discover that she lived somewhere in Apapa.’

HE MET SOMEONE ELSE

‘If it was just a first date, and an old relationship might have flared up or the guy may have met someone in between that he’s rather date’. Says Chuks, a legal practitioner. ‘Under the circumstance, he doesn’t feel an obligation to call you and say anything else; after all it was a first date and nothing more. Don’t hold it against him, don’t wait around either. If you don’t get a call within the week of the first date, forget about him and move on.’