Tell us about your husband to-be?
His name is Bassey Kefre. Incidentally, we are both from the same local government area in Nigeria that is Nsit Ubuim in Akwa Ibom State.
Where did you both meet?
At his cousin’s place in Ewet Housing in Uyo, Akwa Ibom State, Nigeria.
How long have you know each other?
We met in 2001 and got officially engaged in 2008.
What was that thing that made you hold unto the long time/distance relationship courtship?
True love, patience and dedication. Bassey is one of a kind, very few men are like him. He is a man of his words. He back now from Dublin, he went over for studies. During those years he was away, we communicated often and he did visit as often as he could. We just were in touch, it was just his physical presence that was missing, but he was always there in spirit somehow (laughs).
What’s your pet name for him?
(laughs). It’s what everyone knows, we call each other Swedy.
Tell us about the wedding preparations?
These last week is very hectic for us. We are trying hard to put things in place, we can’t for everything to be over.
The traditional marriage is on the 23rd may, 2013, in my country home,Ndiya, Ikot Akpafuk, Nsit Ubium LGA. By 12pm. The white wedding is on the 25th May at Qua Iboe Church, No 112 Nwaniba road, Ewet Offot, Uyo.10am prompt and reception follows at Onyema Ugochukwu Hall, UniUyo. Our colours of the day ( burnt orange and champagne Gold). RSVP.
Pre-wedding pictures
Hello Bassey, congrats on your upcoming wedding. Can you tell us what was the attraction?
The attraction first was her natural beauty,as a young child then you could easily recognize her facial beauty as the was no make up attached on her face,her hair do equally added to that beauty as well,just a simple well trim low cut she carry then, the way she walk(oh my God), her voice and smiles moves me beyond my ordinary imagination.
2001 to 2013, that is a pretty long time for courtship, what kept the relationship intact?
What kept the relationship intact will definitely be attributed to the genuine love l had for right from the first time l saw her,the interest of falling in love,the motivation of taking things easy (as in l should not rush over anything)with her. Rather,l should put forward a gentleman behaviour and give her enough time to consider my intentions were all genuine and she notice all these facts. Really made or should l say work the magic for me. So from the explanation, l was able to create or should l say instill that trust she needed and l always make myself available even when l know she does not need me that much.But to sum it all,what has really kept us,l can emphatically say is the genuine love that came from both of us,the slow but steady feelings for each other and the great support we both put forward for each other academically.
What were the lessons you learnt from the courtship?
Oh the lesson..initially,l was scared of her family,because she has got grown up sisters who have help shape her life over the years,and these sisters of hers equally has great influence over her life as well, so one great lesson l later discover was that her mother is not one who discriminate or segregate. So l started getting close to her, and she took me in as her own biological son.That was the angle l used in winning my wife,because Mum will always calm situations for me(laugh),so basically,l would say it is always advisable to have a calm disposition,patience and understanding most especially when you see all that you have been looking for in a woman you want to keep for life.
If you were in the middle of a sinking ship, and you had the opportunity of saving between (Uwem, your mother or sister) who would you consider saving first?
Who could l save? Wow! That's a difficult question honestly,l sincerely pray such circumstance should not come my way,but in my very honest opinion l will rather save my wife (Uwem), my mother will call my father to come and save her,while my sister will call her husband to come and save her as well. (laughs)
Can you write a short poem for her?
Sweedy-together and forever with you is a wonderful thoughts to behold..everything l believe will always works out find when love leads the way..l love you!
Why do you think some men are scared of getting married?
In my own opinion l will say,It is basically because of fear,non recognition of self worth and most importantly,not trusting in God. Thank you.
This is hilarious to say the list. This is encouraging to all the big sisters. Who said big women can't live life and enjoy it like everyone else?
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