BROTHER'S WHEN LOVING A BIG SISTER....
Oftentimes,
it is not unusual to come across guys who claim to be perplexed by what
women want from them. Some days wives and girlfriends seem to be fine
with who their men are while on others they will try their best to
change the men in their lives. Likewise if you find women difficult to
figure out, here is a list of the ten top things that brothers should
know about what some big sisters want in relationships.
- “We want you to listen to us”
Like
really listen instead of putting on that dazed look and occasionally
managing to come up with an “uh-uh…yeah...that’s right” to show that you
are still alive. At the other of the spectrum are guys who jump at the
chance of lecturing or criticizing their partners the moment the latter
try to share something with them. Remember women talk not merely to seek
advice or exchange information but to share their thoughts and feelings
– it’s how they connect with their partners.
- “We want you to be fun”
A
lively sense of humor is apparently the biggest draw when it comes to
women looking for a dating partner. A man who can laugh away the blues
is not only fun to be with when the going is good but is actually quite a
blessing to have around when the sun does not shine so bright and the
chips are down. However leave the “Three Stooges” brand of humor for the
guys and give your woman something wittier to laugh about.
- “We want you to be there for us”
Perhaps what differentiates a casual fling from a meaningful relationship is that in the latter, partners are there for each other through thick and thin. Men who are not emotionally available are not much use to women for long and sooner or later, women will gravitate to other people who are better at offering comfort and emotional support.
- “We want you to look beyond our bodies”
Every
woman is looking for a guy who is willing to see her as a individual
with a mind and not just a means of making out. This is not to say that
women don’t want to be thought of as attractive but only that they want
to be considered living, thinking beings before that. It has been a
long and hard struggle for women to be accepted as equals, both in
society as well as in personal relationships and this self-respect is
not something that your wife or girlfriend would be willing to give up
in a hurry.
- “We want you to be honest”
OK,
this is not an excuse to tell your woman what you really think of her
in that red dress. Rather when a woman says that she wants her man to be
honest with her, she means that he should refrain from lies and
half-truths in their relationship. Like for instance, telling her that
you are doing overtime when in fact you are out with your beer-mates. Or
worse, cheating on her with someone else and allowing her to think that
you have actually been on a business trip. Trust is the foundation on
which every relationship is built and if you are not honest with your
partner, how can she put her trust in you?
- “We want you to be smart”
That
women dig intelligent guys needs little elaboration. Even though this
does not mean that you have to quote realms from your college
dissertation or explain the finer points of quantum physics but not
coming up with a “duh” every time she wishes to have an intelligent
conversation will work wonders for your relationship. For women, the
brain perhaps is the sexiest part of a man and few things turn her on as
a witty repartee or an intelligent remark. So the next time your
girlfriend invites you over to her place, beat her at Jeopardy and watch
happens.
Pix courtesy a plus size diva
- “We want you to be financially secure”
Among
the top turn-offs for women are guys who live off others – whether
family members, friends or partners. A man who is not gainfully employed
will rarely attract a smart, well-adjusted woman and only those who are
psychologically drawn to losers. Similarly having your own place and
car are signs that you are a responsible adult and are not only capable
of taking yourself but also of providing for a family, which is
ultimately what women have been hard-wired to look for in a potential
mate since the primitive times.
Images of real life couple Sean and Nay Shuemate
Images of real life couple Sean and Nay Shuemate
- “We want to see a more sensitive side in our partners”
Granted
that you don’t believe in shedding tears at the slightest pretext, but
being in touch with your feelings is important if you want to connect
emotionally to a woman. So the next time your partner suggests taking a
late Sunday evening walk, reach out for her hand and hold it gently as
you both watch the sun go down behind the trees. Or when your beloved is
visibly upset, give her a cuddle and ask her what’s going on instead of
merely waiting for her ‘to snap out of it’.
- “We want a guy to have values”
No
matter what your particular philosophy in life is, if you have certain
convictions and are willing to stand up for them, women will respect and
love you the more for it. Values like sincerity, generosity, compassion
and doing good by others will never go out of fashion. Indeed as
society becomes more self-centered and materialistic, these ideals will
be valued even higher. The same goes for good manners and the daily
courtesies. Pulling out a chair for ladies or helping the elderly to
cross the road are not simply evidence of a chivalrous nature but show
that your heart’s in the right place.
- “Lastly remember cleanliness is next to Godliness”
No
matter how nice or rich or smart you are, if you don’t put in a decent
level of effort in your appearance, women are unlikely to have anything
to do with you, especially if you are looking for a nightcap. So go back
to the basics of personal hygiene and every now and then take a tip
from the metrosexual male. Even though not every woman wants a Greek god
on her arms, she definitely wants and expects her partner to look
well-groomed.
At
the end of the day it is not that hard to figure out what a woman wants
from a guy. Someone to respect her as an individual and to love her in a
way that she feels special – apparently, not very different from what
guys want in relationships as well!
VALENTINE IDEAS FOR HER:
Every sister wants to be spoiled and pampered and the best way to show her you really love and adore her is to spoil her silly with love. This valentine season, show her you really care, here are some heart warming gifts that would make any woman love you more.
Flowers
Perfume
Diamond ring
Necklaces
Teddy with gift basket
Valentine Cake
Sexy lingeries
Wristwatch
Make-up box
