WHEN HE DASHES YOUR HOPE

 

Mandy was in her late twenties when Ikenna, her then fiance jilted her. He was her first love, the first guy she ever dated. They started dating since her early twenties  before he called it quit with the relationship.
As expected, Mandy was devastated. It took a long while before coming to terms with the heartbreak that had closed that chapter of her life.
 
Three years after shutting out men from her life, Mandy decides to  move on with her life. Now, she is ready for a fresh relationship and suitors have been coming out but the issue now is, the suitors that come do not last. The men will propose, lift up her hope and within a month or two, she realizes the relationship is no more.
That has been the story with all the guys she met after Ikenna and it has affected Mandy a lot. She is miserable and withdrawn. She thinks she is jinxed and is worried why the men will not stay.
What the likes of Mandy should  understand is that marriage is a serious institution and should  not be toyed with. It is a life long bond which we have to think about it properly before making our decision. Maybe the men seem to understand this better than women.
Obviously, it hurts when your expectations is dashed and promises made broken at the tome when almost all your friends and mates are married with children but there are so many things women should know such as the following;
-Even though age is not on your side, do not be desperate and eager to settle down. When you tell yourself this, you won't be hurt when any son of Adam reneges on his promise.
-A broken relationship/engagement  is better than a broken marraige.
-Don't brood over it so much. Don't allow it give you sleepless nights because you may end up doing what you will regret like inflicting body harm on yourself. No man is worth dying for, always remember that.
-Don't you think that the guy dashing your hope affords you another opportunity for preparing yourself for marriage?
-Tell yourself that he is NOT for you, that a better guy is coming on the way.
Prepare your mind to a state of not taking a guy serious when he proposes. That way, you won't feel hurt when he does the unexpected.
-Involve yourself in activities that would take your mind off the pain of being jilted. Live your life, start fulfilling those dreams you've always had since childhood.
-Discuss your problems with a marriage counselor and confide in a man of God for further counseling and prayers.
Wish you the best.
Elsie-Coco
  
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